6) Find your version of replenishment.
Discover what’s truly restful for you and making it a priority.
Only you know what that is (and don’t worry if you don’t because it frequently changes for me).
Whatever it is, do it, and do it regularly. Stop filling whatever free time you have with stuff that doesn’t bring true soul rest.
7) Know your limits and find immediate relief.
We all have different tolerances for noise. Truly. I’m a big believer in discovering what those limits are and honoring them as part of our own personality.
In the name of sanity (and in keeping the anger monster in its place), I believe it’s OK to tell our kids, “Mommy is super frustrated right now and is going to be in her room with the door shut for five to ten minutes. Please don’t disturb her.”
Here’s a video where I share three awesome ways to calm down (just one part of what I share in the “7 Days to a Less Angry Mom” course):
Hey, moms for sure need a time out (from not only the noise but all the demands of motherhood) from time to time.
And speaking of that immediate need for calm…
8) Play “the quiet game” with your kids.
There are moments when I know that, if my kids don’t give me peace and quiet right now, I’m going to lose it big time.
That’s when I pull out my big guns–the “quiet” game.
We usually call this the “5 minutes of quiet” game (or who can be the most quiet). I set the timer (or if we’re driving, I watch the clock), turn off the TV or radio (or anything causing noise) and we are absolutely still.
I breathe deep, do my best to stay in the moment and pray for God to turn on the calm.
I try not to overuse this game (because it’s unrealistic to ask my kids to do this all the time) but when I need it, it’s there.
9) Try free-form journaling.
Sometimes I find that the noise around me is really noise spinning inside my head!
These are my fears and anxieties; those little things about life that are currently bugging me; things that I must get done in the day… you name it!
When this happens, I turn to my trusty 99-cent spiral bound notebook and just begin writing. It’s nothing formal or pretty–it’s just a release of the thoughts in my head. I usually feel much better when these thoughts are out on paper and not rattling around in my noggin.
10) Spend time with the one who promises peace and quiet for our souls.
Ultimately, true replenishment and rest from the world is found in God!
He wants to offer us a deeper peace than anything we can experience on our own.
He longs to restore what is broken inside us and to fill us up to our true capacity.
He doesn’t promise escape from our troubles but he does promise his peace through them.
Here are a few verses to ponder on God’s version of peace and quiet for our souls: Psalm 23; Psalm 29:11; Isaiah 26:3; Isaiah 32:16-18; John 14:27; and John 16:33.
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