Do you want to have better sex? Sure! We all have questions about how to have better sex in a Christian marriage.
Since sex is one of the top five issues that couples argue about, it makes sense that we all occasionally need some quality Christian sex resources–everything from sexual technique to ways to grow in intimacy overall so that we all can discover better married sex.
But where do we go to find real answers about sex for the Christian marriage? Especially if we're in a Christian marriage and we want clean Christian sex resources that don't involve erotica or pornography?
Most of us aren't comfortable talking about Christian love making tips. We can't really bring it up our questions about married Christian sex while on a playdate at the park. Ahem.
We need a central place (a Christian sex guide) where we can go to (discreetly!) discover healthy answers about how to have better sex in Christian marriage.
And that, my friends, is why I wrote this post. I've gathered these incredible Christian sex resources that give insight into the top questions many Christian couples have about sex and intimacy in marriage.
These Christian sex resources are everything from great books about sex (all clean sex resources for couples) to helpful blog posts and marriage videos (all clean sex resources for couples).
Some of these Christian love making tips are about specifically about sexual technique or physical intimacy; while others offer practical ideas and solutions for improving intimacy in marriage (which often starts outside the bedroom and by working on key relationship issues).
There are also Christian sex resources on flirting and keeping love fun; and those that address what to do if pornography or erotica enters your marriage.
These resources on how to have better sex in Christian marriage are grouped together by topic so that you can find the answers you need fast:
- Powerful Christian Sex Advice Regarding Porn In Your Marriage (including two free christian sex resources for couples dealing with porn in their marriage)
- How to Improve Your Marriage's Spiritual Connection (The Secret to Better Sex!)
- How to Improve Emotional Intimacy for Better Sex
- Christian Sex Resources on Flirting and How to Turn Up Sexual Desire
- How More Date Nights Can Result in Better Sex in Marriage
- Clean Christian Resources on Sexual Technique in Marriage
Why Porn Isn't a Great Christian Sex Resource
Friends, my heart breaks every time I hear of a couple who is suffering because one or both members have become involved in pornography. The silent-but-lethal sin of pornography is destroying marriages, families and even churches all over the world!
That's why I wanted to start this post by talking about one of the greatest evils out there when it comes not only to better sex in marriage but to having a strong marriage overall.
At the surface it seems that porn itself would be a great sex resource for couples. If we need ideas on sexual technique, why not look at what others are doing, right?
But truly, pornography (whether viewed as a couple or by one individual in the relationship) is as destructive as wildfire.
I want to give you two amazing (and free) Christian sex resources that you must check out if pornography has entered your marriage. These are two powerful resources from a Christian online accountability monitoring service called Covenant Eyes, and again, they are completely free.
Free Christian Sex Resources for Couples Dealing with Pornography
- Porn and Your Husband: A Recovery Guide for Wives
- Hope After Porn: Women Share Their Stories of Heartbreak… and How Their Marriages Were Saved
Christian Sex Resources for Online Accountability and Internet Filtering
The free Christian sex resources on dealing with pornography in marriage give couples great advice on the next steps to take when a couple first discovers that porn is an issue. But moving forward, trusted online accountability must be an integral part of a couple's action plan if they seek true healing in their marriage.
Our family has used Covenant Eyes for over 7 years now because they are, without a doubt, the best internet filtering and accountability software on the market.
Not only does Covenant Eyes' software protect loved ones from looking at questionable sites online, it's the accountability power behind Covenant Eyes that makes it an incredibly potent weapon when it comes to battling online pornography.
Pornography can be lethal to a marriage, and no couple is immune from pornography's destructive power. That's why I recommend every couple get Covenant Eyes and become each other's accountability partnering order to safeguard against pornography.
Covenant Eyes even has a 30-day money back guarantee. There really is no risk involved and I know how much having Covenant Eyes has blessed our marriage and given us peace of mind regarding this issue!
Other Recommended Christian Sex Resources for Couples Facing Pornography in Marriage
Do you need more practical advice about how to find healing after pornography or on how to prevent pornography in your marriage? I highly recommend these Christian sex resources as excellent reading materials.
Pulling Back the Shades: Erotica, Intimacy, and the Longings of a Woman's HeartEvery Woman's Battle: Discovering God's Plan for Sexual and Emotional FulfillmentEvery Man's Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a TimeSex Is Not the Problem (Lust Is): Sexual Purity in a Lust-Saturated WorldThe Fantasy Fallacy: Exposing the Deeper Meaning Behind Sexual ThoughtsEvery Heart Restored: A Wife's Guide to Healing in the Wake of a Husband's Sexual SinWorthy of Her Trust: What You Need to Do to Rebuild Sexual Integrity and Win Her BackThe Healing Choice: How to Move Beyond Betrayal
How to Improve Your Spiritual Connection (The Secret to Better Sex in Christian Marriage!)
One of the secrets to the best sex possible actually doesn't start in bed. Read on to learn how to improve your spiritual connection with your spouse (a wonderful way to grow your marriage and have better sex in Christian marriage)!
How can growing closer spiritually transform your married sex life?
Read a few of these posts and you'll discover why the secret to a better sex in Christian marriage starts with maintaining a spiritual bond founded in Christ.
Posts That Share How to Have Better Sex By Focusing on Spiritual Growth
Check out these posts for testimonies and ideas on how to improve your sex life by focusing on spiritual growth as a couple:
- The Surprising Secret to Better Sex for Christians
- Why Christian Marriages Need More Sex Than Ever
- Yes, Busy Couples CAN Have Time for Devotions Together (Our 7 Tips)
Couples Devotionals and Books That Encourage Better Married Christian Sex
Our favorite marriage devotional is one by our dear friends (and marriage coaches) Mike + Carlie Kercheval called “Consecrated Conversations.”
This awesome couples devotional goes deep on important topics that matter to Christian couples (everything from forgiveness to communication issues to sex).
With three sections in each devotion (including a Bible verse, “Converse & Reflect” questions, and a sample prayer), this marriage resource encourages couples to discover intimacy in marriage like never before.
I also appreciate that this book is available digitally. My husband and I don't need to carry a book around because we have this powerful couples devotional available right on our phones or tablets. Yes!
I love how practical this couples devotional is, and how Mike and Carlie really encourage couples to invite God into their marriage discussions. Only God is the one that can bring true satisfaction, contentment and unity in marriage, right?
I highly recommend this marriage devotional to many couples as the best couples devotional out there! Order your copy here.
What are some other great Christian marriage resources (not only devotionals and marriage books, but other powerful books about spiritual topics that can change your life)? Here are our top picks:
The Power for True Success: How to Build Character in Your LifeDevotions for a Sacred Marriage: A Year of Weekly Devotions for CouplesJesus Calling: Enjoying Peace in His PresenceMy Utmost for His HighestThe Best Year of Your Marriage: 52 Devotions to Bring You CloserStreams in the DesertThe Love Dare Day by Day: A Year of Devotions for Couples
#1 Way to Grow Closer to Your Spouse
However, the best marriages are those couples who understand that their love for either other is sustained by a deep understanding of God's love for them.
You can't love your spouse unconditionally unless you've experienced the life-changing power of God's unconditional love.
That's why if you want to make God's love real in your heart (and in your relationship), the Be Loved 5Rs Bible Study™ Journal is a perfect resource.
How to Improve Emotional Intimacy for Better Sex in Marriage
While physical passion is important, we know that emotional intimacy is also a key factor to better sex in marriage.
Posts on Emotional Intimacy That Build Better Sex for the Christian Marriage
Discover how growing together emotionally can dramatically improve sex in a Christian marriage:
“How Little Habits Can Build Your Marriage Everyday”
“What?! He's Not Perfect?! How to Get Over It”
Emotional Intimacy Christian Sex Resources
The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that LastsThe 5 Love Languages for Men: Tools for Making a Good Relationship GreatHis Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof MarriageLove & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately NeedsMen Are Like Waffles–Women Are Like Spaghetti: Understanding and Delighting in Your DifferencesSacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy?The Love DareThe Husband Project: 21 Days of Loving Your Man–on Purpose and with a PlanThe Mingling of Souls: God's Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and RedemptionLoveology: God. Love. Marriage. Sex. And the Never-Ending Story of Male and Female.Sacred Sex: A Spiritual Celebration of Oneness in Marriage
Christian Sex Resources on Flirting and Increasing Sexual Desire
We've all heard that the best sex starts outside the bedroom, right? Couples who can slowly build sexual desire outside the bedroom have a much better likelihood of having more sex in marriage (and better sex overall).
If you're looking for simple ways to flirt with your husband, easy ways to say I love you, or how to re-discover sexual desire in marriage, check out these great Christian sex resources below (which include helpful posts and top-selling Christian sex books).
Ideas for Increased Sexual Desire for Christian Married Couples:
- 16 Fun and Easy Ways to Flirt with Your Husband Today
- 130 Creative Ways to Say I Love You to Your Spouse
Christian Sex Resources for Flirting and Increasing Sexual Desire
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How More Date Nights Can Result in Better Sex in Marriage
It makes sense that date nights are a great way to have better sex in Christian marriage because we're able to re-discover those little things about our spouse that made us fall in love with them.
The problem with date nights is that we get so busy! How can we actually make time for date nights (especially when we have young children and/or busy careers)? And once we do get a date with our spouse on the calendar, how can we insure that the date night will result in a deeper emotional connection (and alright, yes, better sex)?
These posts and other marriage resources below are a fantastic way to not only make date nights a reality in your marriage but to help you develop the fine art of conversation and connection while you're alone together.
Recommended Christian Marriage Post on Date Nights
Favorite Christian Marriage Books About Date Night Ideas
52 Uncommon Dates: A Couple's Adventure Guide for Praying, Playing, and Staying Together101 Conversation Starters for Couples101 More Conversation Starters for Couples (101 Conversation Starters)Little Book of Great Dates: 52 Creative Ideas to Make Your Marriage Fun (Focus on the Family Books)
Clean Christian Resources on Sexual Technique in MarriageOf all the topics about sex in Christian marriage, sexual technique is one of the hardest to find clean Christian resources!
And yet, why shouldn't Christian couples be educated on ways to make married sex as pleasurable as possible?
These awesome Christian sex resources offer not only clean advice on sexual technique, but they are written by highly respected Christian authors.
And let's face it: Sexual technique is quite a fun topic for husbands and wives to explore together, don't you think (wink, wink!)?
Recommended Books on Christian Love Making Tips
Intended for Pleasure: Sex Technique and Sexual Fulfillment in Christian MarriageThe Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual FulfillmentPassion Pursuit: What Kind of Love Are You Making?A Celebration Of Sex: A Guide to Enjoying God's Gift of Sexual IntimacyGetting Your Sex Life Off to a Great Start: A Guide for Engaged and Newlywed CouplesSheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in MarriageHot Mama: 12 Secrets to a Sizzling Hot MarriageRed-Hot Monogamy: Making Your Marriage SizzleThe Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex: (And You Thought Bad Girls Have All the Fun)No More Headaches: Enjoying Sex & Intimacy in Marriage25 Questions You're Afraid to Ask About Love, Sex, and IntimacyUnder the Sheets: The Secrets to Hot Sex in Your Marriage
Other Resources on Romance in Christian Marriage
Want More Romance in Your Marriage? Discover How to Set Marriage Goals Together and Create the Marriage You Want
If you're serious about having better sex in marriage and creating more intimacy, there's no better way than to work on your love life from the inside out by making small changes in your marriage to keep the romance alive.
Discover how to create the marriage (and sex life) of your dreams by creating a realistic plan for change. The Goal Setting for Couples™ course by my dear friends (and marriage coaches) Mike + Carlie Kercheval offer a simple, step-by-step way to set marriage goals that last.
This powerful 4-module course just for couples gives you the step-by-step solution you need to discover, create and live out not only your marriage goals, but the marriage of your dreams.
I also love that Goal Setting for Couples™ is a self-paced course with lifetime access, so you can work through the goal setting material at your own pace.