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  1. Because even with health related issues, having absolute zero physical intimacy of ANY kind is a choice.

    Yes, health issues can prevent too much activity, or even sex itself. However, there are other ways of cherishing the other person’s body, mind, and spirit. Even when exhausted or in pain… you can have physical touch and physical intimacy. Sometimes, you have to wait a bit until one of the “better” days… but you can still find ways to love one another and cherish one another.

  2. How does a marriage survive when there can be no physical intimacy due to health related issues? You can love someone, but lose a connection with them when you cannot be intimate with them and are not able to share yourself with the person you love. It is devistating and lonely. Over time you can become resentful and lose respect. Caring about the little things and over looking flaws becomes harder. No one seems to ever address these types of situations. Maybe because they don’t know what advise to offer.

  3. What do you do when the marriage is cold in spite of both spouses having close walk with God? There have only been a few short periods of intimacy, with the rest of 22 years (even from beginning) being constant struggle and hardships. Tried counseling (two different time periods with multiple visits), prayer counseling intensive week, workshops and books. Always back where we started or worse, feeling like another attempt has failed. I know God doesn’t intend for marriage to be miserable, but still looking for a way to improve things to where we can enjoy marriage and intimacy. Looking forward to reading your book.

  4. Christie,
    I pray for great joy and expectation as you enter into this relationship filled with God’s hope! Hope you plan to do premarital to help you prepare. We have walked with a couple for the last few months and tomorrow we officiate at their wedding. It’s such a joy!

  5. Yes! God uses everything… I learned so much during this time… It was so difficult that it gave me a heart to help others. By the way, I also wrote a book specifically for moms that you may enjoy reading too!

  6. This totally hit home with me! I can say that I felt exactly like you did after having my first baby and sex was the last thing on my mind. After an amazing inner healing process for the both of us we now have the best sex we’ve ever had. It just goes to show you how much the Lord designed us so beautifully. Thanks for sharing your heart!

  7. This is great. Something we need to remember is intimacy with our spouse. It is so easily forgotten and it’s sad because it has so much power. I love that in order to achieve it your heart needs to be turned towards God. We must have God at the center. To get there takes prayer especially when both partners are not on the same page! Visiting from Batavias Best Bargains and shared in my Facebook groups!

  8. Hi Bree! Yes! God is so faithful to keep us connected to our spouses through every season and it’s so beautiful to look back and to see all that He does through our marriages as we walk through those changes together. I’m so glad the post encouraged you! Thanks for sharing and stopping by! And best wishes on your upcoming delivery!

  9. This is really encouraging! I’m due to have our first baby soon, and I’ve heard so much about post-baby sex. I can’t even imagine the additional stress of a house fire! It’s so heartening to hear about the amazing things God can do in any situation!

  10. Ginny! How awesome! What a beautiful testimony, and I appreciate your transparency! I am praying for you right now for the intimacy and restoration that you need in your marriage. God is powerful and amazing and can do great things! Blessings to you!

  11. Through a homeschool pin I found your board Alicia. What a direct movement of God though!! As I opened this pin and began to read, my heart was overwhelmed. I am a pastor’s wife and can TOTALLY identify with Sue. Praying for God to restore real intimacy in my marriage. This article gave me so much hope and encouragement! Thank you for sharing!

  12. Yay! Yes, fantastic! Thank you for sharing that a relationship with God can make such a difference between a so-so marriage and a passionate marriage. I’m so grateful that God has allowed a new level of connection into your marriage too! Blessings to you!

  13. Great post! I so agree that a passionate marriage begins with a solid and open relationship with God, by both partners. My husband and I have seen the difference of bringing God into your marriage for the better! 🙂

  14. Sounds like our retreat was life changing! I completely understand about the post baby feelings. I think that is a hurdle we all have to go through, unfortunately. 🙁 Never heard of the book, I’ll have to keep it in mind!

  15. Hi Hailee! Thank you for sharing your story! It’s never easy to talk about this, but I’m grateful that Sue was willing to open up and help us see that intimacy is something that many couples struggle with. I pray you’re able to use her ideas here about growing spiritually together to bless your marriage!

  16. This was very nice to read. Recently my fiancé and I have been going through very big stressors and we’ve just experienced a dullness in our relationship that was never there before so it’s very inspiring to read what helped you and your husband. Thank you for sharing.

  17. I love to here positive outcomes when marriages start to go off track. I’m so pleased you both found your passion again, were safe in the fire and strengthened your faith. Thank you for sharing your personal story with us at our very first #OvertheMoon link up and see you next week.

  18. I have found that the more transparent we are, the more that God’s light can shine through the imperfections of our life. Talking about sex with openness and candor has been so helpful in our ministry to marriages. I must say that writing the book “9 Traits of a Life-Giving Marriage” did make me feel a bit vulnerable. Yet seeing how it is helping so many brings great joy. You can find me at http://www.SueDetweiler.com

  19. This was a wonderful and encouraging article. I nodded in agreement with what Sue said about post baby sex. It was a challenge. God restores though, and with him as the center the passion for each other only grows.

  20. I’ve often said, we in the church need to be talking more about this subject. Thanks for sharing a great testimony! Visiting today from Creative K Kids.

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