As a busy mom, I feel immense pressure to “love my children” by ensuring that their lives are full of carefully planned activities and studies.
While I believe this is an important part of being a parent, it’s not the most important aspect in raising a child.
My kids feel the most loved when we are simply together.
They want to race cars with me in our long entryway.
They want to make a special treat together in the kitchen.
They want to do things like paint nails and read books and color together.
Things that sometimes we practical-minded parents feel that we don’t really have time for.
Things that, honestly, we may find unimportant or even dull.
But these are the critical moments that can make or break our relationships with our kids.
That’s because when our child asks if we will play cards or build Legos with him, he is really asking, “Am I important enough to you that you will spend time with me?”
They are asking for reassurance that we love them, and comfort in knowing that they are special and wanted.
It’s not a question really of the cards or the Legos. It is a core question of his soul.
And yet, our children's requests for interaction often come when we're smack dab in the middle of something else important: Getting the housework done; making dinner; feeding the baby, or when we truly need to rest and rejuvenate.
So how can we handle this? As a busy mom, how can we find a way to navigate the need to get things done and yet still help our kids feel valued and important?
That's what I'm talking about in this article over at YourModernFamily.com.
Click here to see the 9 ways to be more engaged with your kids.
I pray it encourages and inspires you too!
Other Parenting Helps:
Books like The 5 Love Languages of Children and others give us hints into how our kids are wired and how they may be asking to be loved. Here are some of my favorites that I recommend:
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