A few years ago I noticed that I was angry. A LOT.
Can you relate?
I felt trapped, stuck and tired of my angry self.
My kids, my family, my life as a homeschool mom—these things were supposed to bring me joy, right?!
But instead they just made me SO ANGRY sometimes!! And I had no idea what to do about that.
Through much prayer and trial and error, God has grown me immensely since that time.
And now, I want to share with you what he's taught me about anger–specifically about dealing with anger triggers.
3 Steps to Tackling Mommy Anger Triggers
1) Discover what makes you mad.
We need to give ourselves permission to identify and accept what we're angry about.
We need to understand that what we're feeling is real, and lay it all out on the table.
When I identified my key anger triggers, my answers weren't surprising (and I'm guessing you can relate to more than a few of these?!) but, nevertheless, it felt GREAT to have them written down on paper:
- ungrateful hearts
- whining and complaining
- lack of obedience and willful defiance
- fighting amongst my children
2) Accept these two facts about mommy anger.
I noticed two very important things about my biggest mom triggers (and, friend, you've got to notice them too because they are the lynchpin here!). Ready?
I wasn't in control of whether or not the triggers would come; and
I wasn't in control of whether or not they were going to change (and my being angry about them certainly wasn't helping them to change).
However, my transformation in dealing with mom anger started by accepting this thought:
I can't control whether or not the triggers come, but I can control my response to the triggers.
When I realized that I was in control of (and responsible for) my responses, I finally saw the light at the end of the tunnel–and was ready for help!
3) Get long term help.
Dealing with anger is a process. It requires that we not only learn about anger triggers but other things, such as:
- how to turn up the calm
- how to deal with in-the-moment anger when it strikes
- what to do when we yell at our kids and mess up
- how to turn anger moments into teachable moments
We have to not only learn these strategies, but develop plans that are customized to our personal family issues and our own anger triggers. Can I share with you what's working for me (and many other moms) and help you through this process?
It takes time, a plan and an encouraging community to deal with mommy anger.
You're personally invited to join us in the “7 Days to a Less Angry Mom™” course.
Learn more about your anger triggers and find REAL FREEDOM from mommy anger.
You can find out more about this life-changing, biblically-based course here.
I understand what you're going through, and I want to walk this road with you to healing!
Learn more about the “7 Days to a Less Angry Mom™” course!
With hope and excitement for YOU,