5 Steps to Turn Mommy Anger Into a Teachable Moment - Vibrant Christian Living

5 Steps to Turn Mommy Anger Into a Teachable Moment

What do you do after you've gotten angry at your kids? You want to apologize for your mom anger, but you also want them to know that their behavior was unacceptable, right?

As a mom of four kids, I can completely relate!

How do we apologize for our mommy anger while still communicating our frustration with our kids' behavior?

How can we turn our mom anger into a moment of positive connection with our kids that lets them know that anger isn't OK (but that we parents aren't perfect and sometimes need forgiveness too)?

What do you do after you've blown up at your kids? You want to apologize for your anger, but you also want them to know that their behavior was unacceptable, right? As a mom of four kids, I can completely relate! How can we apologize for our angry actions while still communicating our frustration? How can we turn mommy anger into a teachable moment? You’ve got to try this simple, 5-step method!

When I get angry, here are the five steps that I take to transform my mommy anger into a teachable moment with my kids.

You'll learn how to:

  • Apologize effectively for your actions
  • Help your children see their mistakes (in a grace-filled way)
  • Guide them towards better behavior
  • Offer forgiveness and God's hope

I'm sharing this because every mom deals with anger. Of course we want to avoid anger altogether, but we are all works in progress moving toward becoming our best selves. Should you get angry at your kids (like we all do from time to time), I want to share these five steps so that you can turn a painful parenting moment into a teachable moment with your kids.


When You Get Angry at Your Kids (You're Not Alone)

Even if we're working to control our mommy anger, we moms can still get angry from time to time and possibly say things we shouldn't to our kids. Again, it's not that it's OK to get angry at our kids, but I want to let you know that it's common and it's something that every mom has to work through.

The question isn't how to eliminate mommy anger completely (because this is impossible), but how to handle it positively when it arises.

5 Steps to Turn Mommy Anger Into a Teachable Moment

  1. Give an honest, heartfelt apology for your angry words and angry action.
  2. Bridge the conversation to the child's actions that may have provoked your anger.
  3. Allow the child to see how his/her choices affect other's behavior.
  4. Offer forgiveness and share about God's love.
  5. Mend the bond by finding a way to connect with the child in a positive way.


The 5-step method will transform these challenging anger moments into a chance to share firsthand with your kids about grace, forgiveness and God's love.

Again, just to be clear, we're not making excuses for mommy anger, but this 5-step method gives you the tools to turn a negative situation into a positive one that grows your relationship with your child during those moments when you may mess up.

Once you've downloaded this freebie, give it a try and let me know in the comments how it works for you!

Other Posts on Mom Anger

Mommy Anger: My Confession and Why You're NOT Alone

Dealing with the Guilt of Mommy Anger

That Makes Me MAD! How to Tackle Mommy Anger Triggers

Got an Angry Child? 4 Steps to Help Kids Manage Anger


About Alicia Michelle

As a Bible teacher, author and professional Christian life coach, Alicia Michelle empowers women to cultivate a closer walk with Christ through her Connected Bible Community, and other 5Rs Bible Study™ resources; and to find life balance and overcome negative thought patterns through her signature coaching programs (Reset Life Balance Group Coaching; The Mindset Makeover).  As host of the Vibrant Christian Living Podcast, she inspires thousands of women each week with practical tips and powerful inspiration on how they can create the life of their dreams and live out God’s best plan for their lives. Alicia is also the creator of the Spiritual Growth Rhythm,™ a simple way for anyone to apply biblical truth and connect with God in less than 10 minutes a day.  Alicia is a wife to her best friend and husband of 19 years, and a mom of four very vibrant children (ages 17 to 8).  Follow her on Instagram at @vibrantchristianliving and learn more about the Connected Bible Community and group coaching programs at VibrantChristianLiving.com.

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