I have conversations all the time with an imaginary man. In fact, I’ll bet you do too.
You see, we develop these unrealistic expectations of how our marriage should be (and especially how our husbands “should” treat us).
And on days when real married life is less than ideal, we imagine how our fantasy spouse–let’s call him “Prince Charming”–would act in that moment.
Prince Charming gives the “perfect” answer our your feelings, right?
He says things like: “Oh, honey, you’re so right. Let me draw you a bath and give you a neck message as you tell me all about it.”
Prince Charming knows exactly what we need, and is more than happy to give it to us gift-wrapped with a lovely red bow.
He is completely selfless and at our beck and call. And if we let him invade our mind regularly, this fantasy guy can also be a silent marriage killer.
Prince Charming Feeds Unhealthy Relationship Expectations
I’ve learned through almost 15 years of marriage that this fantasy guy that lives in my head is anything but the best man for me.
You see, for years, Prince Charming has tricked me and given me the wrong impression about how my real husband (you know the one I said “for better or worse” to) “should” treat me.
Prince Charming has whispered impossibilities into my ear—falsehoods about what marriage “should” be about and about how my husband “should” respond in each situation.
He has established unrealistic expectations in my heart about how my husband “needs” to react. He has told me that, if my husband really loved me, he would answer me in this specific way or do this specific thing.
For years, these unrealistic expectations robbed me of the true joys of my husband and severely limited our marriage.
And yet, I was the one who let these falsehoods take root in my heart! I was the one who said, “Prince Charming, you’re right and he’s wrong. Why can’t he respond the way you do?”
Take Action Against Unrealistic Expectations in Marriage
And friend, today I want to be real with you about the dangers of listening to Prince Charming, and how this idealized man can slowly and inadvertently destroy the beautiful walls of your home’s foundation—your marriage.
I recently shared about this topic as part of the 31 Days to A Better Marriage Series.
This post is a very personal one for me (and I feel that it has the potential to set many women free!) so I pray that you’re able to read the full post here.
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Have you ever dealt with unrealistic expectations in your relationship by creating a fantasy spouse in your mind? What lies does your Prince Charming tell you, and how have you seen it lead to an unhealthy marriage?