Emotional Affair Warning Sign #3: Believing the Lie “He’ll Never Change”
Annoyed by the little things in your marriage and convinced that your man will “never change”? We’ve all felt that!
However, people can change and do everyday through Christ! Second Corinthians 5:17 says “Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.”
Remedy: Believe that Change Is Possible, But Also Choose to Accept Him As-Is
Begin by praying for your spouse to change. God promises that He has the power to change any heart and we see evidence of this throughout the Bible!
However, at the same time, pray for your heart to change.
Yes, your anger with him over these thoughts may be warranted. These actions may be ungodly* or your marriage may have turned out differently that you’d hoped. But the thing is that we’re all imperfect and that marriage isn’t about changing another person into who we want them to be, but by being changed by God so that we can love our spouse unconditionally the way God loves them.
Oh my word, this takes patience and so much prayer (been there!), but if your heart is willing, God will guide you step by step to being able to love your husband right now where he’s at. The Bible promises that this is the kind of love that transforms others (1 Peter 3:1-2, Ephesians 4:1-3)!
*Physical or emotional abuse is never OK and should not be accepted and tolerated. I am not a professional counselor, but I would advise that if you are dealing with these situations in your marriage, remove yourself and your children from any harmful situations and seek immediate help.
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